THE BRYAN KOHBERGER - IDAHO FOUR TRIAL IS SET TO BE ABOUT EVERYTHING NOW

Yea- I know- no trial ... there's still a lot of interest and speculation about Bryan... still those who think he's innocent through he confessed... Christine September 2025

THE BRYAN KOHBERGER - IDAHO FOUR TRIAL IS SET TO BE 

ABOUT EVERYTHING NOW

by Christine Trzyna

If the Idaho Four murders had happened not so long ago - let's say two decades ago - Bryan Kohberger would probably not have been arrested as an "innocent until proven guilty" suspect. As there has been no confession, no knife found, but a whole lot of this and that, the murder of four innocent college students living off campus at the University of Idaho is still a crime of circumstantial evidence. There are many who believe the man is innocent, including, she says, his attorney and his defense team. And thousands of news articles and other media, including many True Crime YouTube stations with authoritative guests, speak of him as the killer. Of late is the exploration of how he might be executed by firing squad.

Though not much of a true crime aficionado - compared to the very many who follow outstanding crimes and criminal justice case by case - I love a good mystery and have occasionally participated in the sleuth game over the years.  After all, as a ten year old, Nancy Drew books were far more interesting to me than books I was forced to read, such as the English classics. With so many crime and forensics television series giving viewers lessons of discovery, there's a temptation to be just like Nancy, the heroine whose investigative ways lead her to follow the clues and solve the mystery.

The upcoming trial will have everything now. DNA evidence, video evidence, door camera and sound, cell phone pinging, social media and networking, texting, and Internet purchasing... That's why the Bryan Kohberger - Idaho Four Trial may just be the Trial of the Century. Frankly many people I've talked to about it mention how different the O.J. Simpson trial would have been if this technology had been available.

One thing for sure: If Bryan Kohberger is not the killer, then someone who has or may go on to kill again is out there.

As mentioned in a previous post, I find that the constant use of Internet social media as a display of good times, good looks, and in some cases teasing sexiness, by the students, particularly, the two girls who, as childhood friends, slept and died in the same bed together, not worthy of being murdered, but stupidity.  (It could be argued that it was also show-offy and competitive.)

As well there is reason to think some of these students were alcoholic and we all know that drunk people loose their inhibitions and under the influence do all sorts of things they may regret later. I associate membership in Frats and Sororities to be indicative of alcoholism as well.  Allowing their rental house to be a party house so notorious that some students partied there when not one renter was home, was also just plain stupid. I do not think all college students party as a way of life so excusing the way these activities opened these students up to privacy invasion and being targeted as just what college students do is in error.

I marvel at how a student could work, ace classes with a full time class load, and party too.  Maybe I don't personally have that level of genius or guts.

I'm not excusing murder of course, just encountering facts.

I also still find it irksome when I hear true crime authority figures not understand what being a grad student and a TA means or even what a Criminal Justice candidate studies. Finally someone spoke up and said that thousands of people who major in Criminal Justice - bachelor, masters, or PhD's, do not go on to commit murders. The analysis is interesting to be sure, but has not lead to more than speculations.

These last few days more information, such as the redacted texting between surviving housemates, which aids the time-line, has been released. ... As if tantalizing advertising for the upcoming trial.

Of all the "evidence" it is the cell phone pings that I find to be ridiculous. This is because of my own experience with cell phones.

My first cell phone was a gift, along with what proved to be very limited service. (I appreciated it, at a time when I could not afford to buy one myself.) However, while living on a block full of apartment buildings, I had to go outside and walk up the street to make and take calls and there were significant delays when it came to receiving text messages.

In recent years I had a cell phone in a residential area where calls and texts seem to go through with more ease. However, I was amazed to see the information on the phone that "locates" a person and their phone, for it identified me as pinging in Las Vegas, especially in the middle of the night, and Vegas is about 270 miles away!  (I also had not ever called anyone or any place in Vegas.)  Up the road from my place was a quarter mile stretch in which the locals warned me that even ATT had no service. Was it the ocean?  The hill?

Currently, I'm sometimes startled to see that my phone knows exactly were I am, as it switches one town- one block - to the next. Other times my location is all over the place. 

Of all the "evidence" I find to be most controversial (and frightening) is the DNA - touch DNA - evidence. This DNA on the metal button of a leather knife sheaf is not even a fingerprint.

In fact, I haven't heard anything about fingerprinting at the crime scene.

Is the information that has made the rounds of YouTube and other True Crime podcasts even true?  Such as that despite inspections of Bryan Kohberger's apartment on campus, office on campus, and car, which was taken away by the FBI, there is NO blood from any of the students?  I ask, "How can a murder scene so bloody that some may have seeped out of the house foundation" NOT result in student blood - DNA being found? 

Friends say that likely the murderer suited up for murder and quickly got rid of the clothing.  How masterful that might have been, even if wearing overhauls or the like. No time for a shower, in this case....

Most worrisome is that thousands of people who entered their DNA results into genealogy databases, who DID NOT GIVE PERMISSION FOR THESE TO BE USED FOR ANY OTHER PURPOSE SUCH AS BY PRIVATE INVESTIGATORS, POLICE, FBI, learned - what the hell - they did so.  This did not just violate Bryan Kohberger's privacy but also ALL THOSE PEOPLE'S privacy.

I learned that your garbage is no longer yours or private once you throw it out. Something I have done - put my garbage is someone else's garbage bin - is suspicious behavior.  So is wearing gloves to deal with garbage...

I, like very many, are eager to get the blow by blow of the trial. I believe Kohberger's defense attorneys will try everything to reduce his sentence or get him off. We will learn much.

Do I think Bryan Kohberger is innocent?

I am open to that idea.  

C2025 Christine Trzyna

My favorite True Crime podcast, and I listen only to the Bryan Kohberger coverage, is Surviving the Survivor. 

September 4 2025 UPDATE : The trial never happened due to a plea deal as you probably know... There is still reportage on Bryan as various videos and testimonials and such are released to the public.  A video of him (or an AI representation) in a prison cell has also made it onto the Internet and there are those who are taking bets on how long he'll be alive in prison, though he is in solitary and protected as much as the prison can at this point.

ONE OF THE MORE SANE OPINION VIDEOS ABOUT THE IDAHO FOUR MURDERS : TIMOTHY ALLEN CAMPBELL : BRYAN KOHBERGER'S CHANCES OF A FAIR TRIAL : TA REALITY

May 14 2026  Well Bryan pleaded guilty, and so it goes... And I've learned there are about 50,000 murders in the USA in a year.

Having watched dozens of videos, I'm convinced it will be near impossible for Bryan Kohberger to get a fair trial. He has been convicted in the media for sure. Innocent until proven guilty is fundamental to the law in the United States of America but experts including ex FBI agents are talking as if he is guilty, even just calling him Bryan like they can own that over-familiarity. He is a suspect. A suspect.  The ONLY one? 

For a while I was immune to NewsNation broadcasters being negative and opinionated but Banfield is now on my nerves and I no longer think NewsNation is what it claims, news without bias. Nancy Grace, go back into the hole you crawled out of.  You don't need to be outraged for the rest of us.

I'm so glad I did not pursue journalism as my major as I would be ashamed and embarrassed to be in journalism at this point since almost all news is now soft, tabloid, badly researched news.  MURDER HAS BECOME ENTERTAINMENT.

THINK ABOUT THIS.... There are about 35,000 murders in the United States each year but very few are taken up like this one by the media and few get the manpower and funding to be solved that this one has. Name the ones you remember that got this much attention...  O.J.... Name the people you know or know of who have been murdered. (I know three.) I can bet you that if there was more than one or two investigators on the case who gave it a week or two, that would be exceptional.

And while the Idaho Four case has it's ironies, it's true that the Victims have all been turned into Saints, yet it IS likely that overall the party house was the scene of underage drinking and the use of illegal drugs and a pain in the ass in the neighborhood where serious students also lived. IT WAS NOT SAFE BEHAVIOR TO HAVE PARTIES GOING ON THERE WHEN NOT ONE RENTER WHO LIVED THERE WAS HOSTING. IT IS NOT SAFE BE DRUNK, especially not stumbling drunk - EVER. Were one or all of these students so brilliant that they could excel in all their classes, work part time, and be involved in all that frat and sorority partying and volunteer work?  What was their priority?  If so they were all more brilliant than Brian Kohberger, a serious student.  Rather, I think perhaps the University of Idaho college is really what they call a "party school" where students major in drinking and drugging, and where it is simply well below the usual academic standards, a college where it is easy to pass a class. For these people college is just something you do, an inevitability, not something you strive for, perhaps a rite of passage for a certain class who will spend their lives not really having to work: even sliding through you will end up well employed because someone your parents know will hire you but you can spend most of your time skiing or on the boat.

It also pains me that one expert and media person after another excuses their unsafe behavior as "Typical" of college students, and calls them "Kids." Last I heard age 18 begins adulthood.

I will never get it why ANY SERIOUS STUDENT would even WANT to be in a FRATERNITY OR SORORITY.  I'm no longer in the position to hire, but I would consider that someone was in either to be a NEGATIVE. I would be hiring a drunk or druggie and someone who apparently thinks HAZING is OK. What does hazing TEACH people?  That it is OK to Bully? To be a SNOB?  To be a ROTTEN BOSS who treats underlings like shit? Is that what these stupid frats and sororities teach members? I think of the drunk coworkers and bosses (usually sales people) I had over the years and I can tell you they and their moods and verbal abuse were no fun nor was having to do their paperwork because they just didn't feel like it.

Some of the things that apparently make Bryan guilty that the media is running with are utterly ridiculous, from turning a shaving nick into being beat up in jail, from cleaning a vehicle that was just on a road trip and is visibly filthy with grime in those pull-over videos to be trying to cover evidence, to the whole cell phone ping thing.... which is not the same as GPS. I haven't even been using a cell phone for some time now after having more than one at more than one location that could not find a place to ping.  Having to go out on the street (no privacy) to make and take calls was lousy.  Finding out messages I sent early evening were showing up on other people's phones in the middle of the night was a problem. I also, when writing and researching, do not want the interruption, not even the annoying buzz, and I am not ON CALL!  It is near impossible to even find a place to work outside of one's own home, because the library is full of people on phones and buzzing.

Maybe Kohberger's phone needed to be recharged. So I would like to know if this insomniac who had trouble sleeping at night had a pattern of turning the phone off, to recharge, or perhaps to try and sleep. (TRY LEAVING YOUR PHONE AT HOME and GOING THROUGH YOUR DAY! We used to do it pre-cell and it is possible.)

Worst, Kohberger's teenage angst expressed years ago on the Internet is being held against him as a man. Including by the obnoxious psyche "expert" Dr. Grandy.  One more wanna be influencer who  should pack up shop and go home. I suspect Grandy has narcissic personality disorder himself, because he has called himself an expert and there is no reason to think so if you listen to his speculations about various people in the news. He should admit that Bryan Kohberger was never his patient.  And if he was his patient, then Grandy would be under the GAG ORDER.

Many of these people who are talking speculations and convicting Bryan Kohberger have advanced educations and are in the professions yet they apparently do not know much about our legal system. How did they manage to be educated and not know a suspect is NOT A CONVICT?

And I'll bet vegans, but also especially Kosher Jews, are cringing as the media tries to make it mentally ill and weird that Kohberger would not want to have his food cooked in pans that had meat in them. I met a number of brilliant grad students - these in the sciences and from other countries who had food weirdness. One slip of an Asian scientist  - not an ounce of fat - ate only cup sized balls of white rice with a little seaweed mixed in. She had her rice cooker, and this was what she ate for three meals and a snack each day - four cups of white rice with seaweed. Another each morning had a ritual in which he carefully folded a cereal box and laid it flat, then put his bowls and utensils down. He was unable to eat without performing this set up first. Well, if you read this blog you already know I have some opinions about vegans and vegetarians and organic foodies being in denial of their own human body, their carnivore teeth and intestines, but I guess what I'm saying that I think food weirdness and PhD candidates may go hand in hand.

The owner of the Mad Greek Restaurant has spoken out that NO, Bryan Kohberger DID NOT eat there, yet many media are still reporting that he did. So I decided to do something I rarely ever have and that was make comments.  BUT MOST OF THESE SLANDER SLINGING VIDEOS HAD COMMENTS TURNED OFF.

ALL TIME WASTING VIDEOS IN WHICH THE INFORMATION PROVIDED HAS ALREADY BEEN PROVEN WRONG SHOULD BE TAKEN DOWN.

So, give Timothy Allen Campbell a listen because he may not be all wrong. 

This morning it was considered suspicious that a brilliant grad student would apply for an appropriate internship with the police.  

Even Bullhorn Betty is apparently ignorant of the typical Graduate Student, PhD candidate's way of life.  

So let me tell you. Grad students very often are hired to be Teaching Assistants or TA's as a way to earn money and as part of their education, especially if they may want to stay in academia and teach themselves rather than be a researcher or employed outside academia. I had many of them, in "sections" where a professor, who lectured to a huge crowd, would then divvy out the discussion groups and testing and so on to a number of TA's. TA's go on strike due to their work load and lousy pay (University of California). Some of them not only TA but also have other part time work as well as massive student loans in order to get through to a PhD so they have to have confidence and gumption. However, depending on the school and major, they may not be expected to get on out of there quickly, they may TA for years. Their (personal) work is under an advisor and falls into the category of independent research.

As TA's they work under a professor who is responsible for their work. But some of those professors are just so happy not to be teaching themselves. They actually find they must PUBLISH OR PERISH so they are focused on their own research and writing. They are supposed to review the TA's work but I can tell you from personal experience that some of the professors really are in their own world, the so called Ivory Tower, and don't bother. Unless you call them up on it.

If a TA is grading unfairly, if that professor hears that from too many students or a particular student makes their case, he or she will very likely call in the TA and have talk with them about grading. After all, he or she doesn't want students to quit the class or talk to the Dean and cause them trouble. 

Very likely Bryan Kohberger was on such a higher level in his own education and didn't realize it, which is also not uncommon among professors. We would say that the professor was so into his theories that he failed to any longer be able to communicate to beginners. Bryan Kohberger was also a beginning grad student. He had only been in his program a few months. He had years ahead of him. I would hope that if he is not found guilty, he will be able to go back to his PhD, because as I see it, the media has ruined his life.

A good number of grad students do not make it to a Phd. Phd students work with an advisor who guides them and may have strong opinions about how to write their thesis. I've heard of grad students finding their advisor to be sabotaging and jealous, to basically live to make the grad student quit. Also I came to think that most of the grad students I met had parents who had been pushing them to be PhD's from an early age.  Often this meant that they were, when it came to relationships, very immature. Their head was in the books for so many years that they did not have much socialization as compared to someone whose parents were accepting of them as they were. I would say (many of those I met) grew up with parents who were snobs and who WOULD NOT LOVE THEM UNLESS THEY SUCCEEDED. Some of them were practically horse-whipped as children to be professionals and a normal childhood was taken from them.

The student will present a thesis, usually about five years after they began their program, often attempting some new research, an innovation, a discovery. Bryan Kohbergers on line questionnaire is not creepy but is totally in line with a grad student who is trying to get focus to hone in on what their specialty area will be. 

Sorry but the video I posted is no longer available.

One of a few this man has posted, he is serious, not trying to be funny. Timothy Allen Campbell has the alternative viewpoint that isn't in the media and he has made some important points. He says the murder victims were irresponsible.

Another thing that is true is that grad students find themselves so busy (trying to teach as well as proceed to do their own work that they) are often overwrought under pressure, THEY OFTEN DO NOT HAVE TIME FOR RELATIONSHIPS but look to marriage after they get their PhD - usually to another grad student - because by that time their peers advise them to "do better" than someone who only earned a bachelor's degree. They are advised professionally to not have relationships with underlings, such as students in their classes, and also to avoid relationships with their peers as grad students in their own programs. So, if you are getting a PhD in literature, forget that department, and consider someone in Anthropology.  (And so it would make sense that Kohberger would go to the campus a ten minute drive away and sit in the student union, perhaps hoping to start up a conversation with a student there.)

At least one of my grad student associates started a sexual affair with her married advisor in the literature department within the first months of her arriving on campus. But then she was a sex addict and might not have used this to get an advantage over him. (She had a list of men she wanted to have sex with which included a couple of my platonic male friends.)   

The saying went IF YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WHEN YOU START GRAD SCHOOL YOU PROBABLY WON'T HAVE ONE UNTIL YOU'RE OUT OF IT.

Also said to be suspicious but it is not, is that Bryan Kohberger sent a few electronic hellos to one of more of the young women who were murdered.  Really?  This is not harassment.  I've been harassed and I know what that is. It is especially horrible when an intellectual property thief publishes something without your permission.

You can file a complaint with the FBI for internet harassment. And back when I had the comments turned on for this blog, I almost did file a complaint.  Someone from long ago, who had proven to be a ripe asshole in real life, found me and sent me at least a dozen haranguing comments, probably attempting to lure me to see his porn site. I knew he had always been unstable and also had also been unappreciative back in the day.  It was sad to learn that he had not overcome his personality disorder or mental illness. But I figured he was a better candidate for a visit from the San Francisco police and a waste of time and money for the FBI.

These simple hellos via Bryan Kohberger were not "love letters" and since there was reportedly no response it's not like one or all of them sent a message back or blocked the hellos.

(At least two of the murder victims) were posting photos of themselves in sexy outfits and various poses frequently. Tell me that these some of these brilliant women who dyed their hair ice blond and paid to have their teeth perfect and brilliant, (What is called the $100,000 smile) and posted pictures of themselves showing skin, did so because they did NOT want attention! No, they were reaching out for attention, they were attractive, and they wanted to prove to the world constantly that they were popular. If you do NOT want such attention, what you do is keep the social networking to a minimum, such as putting your Facebook on PRIVATE.

Now, I do want whomever murdered the Idaho Four to see Justice but Justice in the United States of America still assumes the person is innocent until convicted.  But what is happening with all the True Crime YouTubers and the very many who have not established themselves but are hoping on the caboose of that train and are causing MOB RULE. 

I reported to Google/YouTube in FEEDBACK that it was really disgusting to be watching videos about these murders and be getting ads to buy knives and military quality equipment for survivalists and chefs. 

C 2023  Christine Trzyna

Slightly edited for clarity  2/10/2023

I want to emphasize that being a TA may not at all be a requirement to earn a Phd.  It would depend on what college, what program, and what their particular goals are.

JOINING GREEK LIFE? YOU MAY NEED A TRUST FUND FOR REHAB and UNDER-REPORTED ON THE IDAHO FOUR MURDERS

GREEK LIFE and "ALCOHOL ADDICTION" by Recovery Village Interesting stats.

Statistics from other surveys show the direct effects of substance use in Greek organizations. Each year:Around 500,000 members suffer unintentional injuries related to substance use
70,000 cases of sexual assault and acquaintance rape
1,400 members die from alcohol-related causes
600,000 assaults occur
50% of members perform poorly on important school assignments

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GREEK LIFE is your straight ticket to being a boozer and druggie.

Let's say you yourself are not an "alcohol addict." But somehow you get into one of the frats or sororities where you are surrounded by people who are....

I chose to link to this site because it seems comprehensive.

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Though I don't usually follow true crime podcasts, I've been following the many articles and videos regarding the "Idaho Four." By doing so I've been able to eliminate a great number of content creators who are piggy backing on more journalistic offerings. I'm also avoiding any headline that might suggest the police and many other investigators aren't qualified.

I have yet to find ANY media that would suggest that any of the four murdered college students were alcoholic. Never the less, while again I don't think anyone deserves to be murdered (or the victim of any crime) I think the investigation WILL have to ask some tough questions about the victim's life styles.

For instance a person who drinks to the point of stumbling around drunk IS NOT BEING VIGILANT.

From reviewing hundreds of articles and broadcasts repeated on YouTube, it does SEEM that Kaylee, was supposed to be part of the winter graduation, but had already moved out of sorority house in the past, had already moved or was moving out of the house in which she was murdered. She had broken up with her long term (five year) boyfriend, you could say her high school or college boyfriend, and was moving to Texas to begin a career. She was back in town to visit and tie up loose ends. She was doing what many do once graduated, starting a new life in another part of the country, but was there someone who could not bear that thought that he or she would never see her again?

She might have been sleeping in the same bed as her best friend/sister since the 6th grade Maddy because? Perhaps her own bed had been moved out. Perhaps they drunkly fell into bed together. Perhaps they were both bisexual.

Her dad is the most openly vocal and angry of the parents. We do understand the shock that the parents and family members, close friends, and living housemates, must have experienced, and the grief they are experiencing. Never the less, Kaylee's parents hiring a lawyer to go against the police give me the impression they will sue someone - the police, the landlord, the school.... Someone! It will not be enough for them that hundreds of professionals and millions of dollars are spent on finding the murderer. They are acting as if they are special.

THIS IS NOT CSI the television crime solving series. Even CSI - admits that technologies that do not yet exist are used on the show. It takes much more than an hour to solve a crime. DNA evidence is fairly new.

I await the reveal of the autopsy information including the booze in Kaylee's blood... If she were not drinking for some time at the bar before going to the food truck, I would be less apt to think of this as a "crime of opportunity." That phrase is used to describe a criminal who preys upon someone because they are a good target, and in that sense there is nothing personal. I.e. the rapist who follows a drunk woman home.

I also feel speculative about the identity of the killer or killers and their motivation. The idea that there might have been a get away car. Or that there was more than one murderer.

I think it's possible that other people did show up at the house and see the crime scene and fled, perhaps out of shock and fear.

As for individual locks on the doors, it's clear to me that the owner of the house clearly intended to rent to students, one after another. Someone still on the lease and paying rent for months though moved out? An empty room for the dog to be put into to the killer to hide in? I'm curious about the rent, and if the rent was only affordable to students with rich parents. I can imagine the individuals in the house locking their personal doors when out for the day, but not locking them while at home.

Maybe a frat boy went on a rampage.

It could be that someone heard she would be back in town. One last chance.

So, was Kaylee nice to everyone? Too nice? Or was she a Greek Life snob? There has been no discussion in the media about that possibility. Her grades were excellent AND she had time to party? She also worked part time at the restaurant. She does sound like a dynamo. WHY do people join Greek Life? I think, from reading around this subject, that they intend to have networks for career in place, that they want out of the dorms, and that it's also about being elite or rich enough to afford all that comes with it. But if your purpose in attending college is a career, perhaps the social and career network is the purpose of Greek Life. Oh, and to find a marriage partner who also has potential, comes from money, etc. As campus get to the point of having thousands of students, the frat or sorority becomes a smaller pool of associates.

But all the reportage that drinking is "just letting off steam" and something that all college students do - they are adults but called "KIDS" shows me just how ignorant the media is about alcohol.


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Addition to original post on 12/23/2022

As I search for new information on this case, "the Idaho Four" I see that the case may not be cold, but after about six weeks of very frequent reportage, including by independent content creators who post on YouTube, reportage with NEWS (ie what's NEW) is subsiding. It may be that there is a lull, that the speculation has not been fed with anything much since the spectacle of the white car search, which seemed to end when a crashed car fitting the description was discovered in Oregon. The video of a police call to the house when a party was going on but none of the room mates was actually home was revealed.

More proof of behavior that's NOT SAFER BEHAVIOR. And proof that there wasn't just a hell of a lot of DNA in that house, but also that at least one, if not all housemates, were terribly irresponsible about allowing access to the house. I'm really sick of the reportage being that they were KIDS, and also that they were TYPICAL COLLEGE STUDENTS. No they were not.

I'm using the term Safer here akin to when we use the term Safer re Safer sex rather than Safe Sex. Safer behavior may not entirely eliminate danger but will greatly improve your chances of not being exploited or infected so...

If you're reading this and wonder...

Drinking to the point of being drunk, especially stumbling around drunk, greatly increases your chances of being exploited and targeted. Usually for sex, but could be for murder.

Giving out the codes to bypass the security of your house or room is dangerous behavior. You really want people to know what all you have? To go into your personal areas?

Allowing people to use your house to party when you are not home is ridiculous. They bring other people in who you may never have met. This level of "trust" is foolish. Not to be confused with being "social."

You cannot trust the vetting process of a sorority or fraternity to ensure that the people you surround yourself with are all OK. While you can have by choice a "family of friends" in addition to or as a substitute for the family of birth or adoption, the entire sorority or fraternity is NOT YOUR FAMILY. Further HAZING and other stupid rituals of acceptance that are about power and degrading or humiliating others to prove how much they want to be one of your brothers or sisters is fundamentally beyond immature, it is sick. Do you intend to keep up that attitude and behavior when you graduate and are employed or working your own business? (In my opinion, colleges should no longer allow these organizations on campus' because colleges supposedly stand for inclusion.)

So let me tell you what those I've met in life who became members of AA and other 12 step type clubs told me years ago, when I asked them to explain. THE TIME YOU SPEND DRUNK OR HIGH is not time in which you experience life, but time you are escaping it. A person who starts drinking as a lifestyle at 18 who quits at 38 is often a 38 year old who is still thinking and acting like an 18 year old. I do realize there is controversy and confusion about at what point a person is actually alcoholic. For instance, drinking and driving - when you are impaired - could be defined as one beer. Also, some people are allergic to alcohol or do not physically process it through their system the same. If you rarely drink it may effect you more profoundly. Some people define it as, even if it is only one glass of wine, if it is being drunk for an alteration of mood or to escape, then it is your purpose in drinking that defines you.

A while back some friends took me out to lunch and we ate a lot of food and I had one glass of wine. That wine hit me quickly and did not seem to effect them at all.

Your friends who drink more than you may be your examples or define for you that since you're not keeping up with them, they have the problem, and you don't.

I simply ask you to be self aware and ask yourself honestly how much you are drinking and how often and why.

If you graduate or leave college after the Greek Life, you may network with others in that life for years, however, if you have been alcoholic as a way of coping with the "stress" of academic stress, before you move to another state to begin your career, or attempt to have an adult, independent life, with a good career too, you very likely want to quit the booze. (Or drugs.) The stress and responsibility of adult life is usually beyond what you experience in college. You won't just have to show up for classes but be on time for work and work for many hours a week. You may partner, have children to raise right, have family responsibilities that include caring for parents.

Going out to celebrate after completing a semester or quarter or on break is different than parties every day or every weekend. A drink with dinner is different than a case of beer. However, some people can still have that one beer, be drunk, and drive irresponsibly. Some people can drink to the point of throwing up, then ace a test the next day. But, it's more likely that you wont study well with a hang-over.

Some people point to the Greek Life brother or sister as an example. Academic excellence as proof that the person does not have a problem with substances. However, that person may also be blessed with a high-IQ, may have had a pre-college education that put them ahead of their peers, may cheat, or in some way be exceptional.

Take it from someone who has had the alcoholic boss, who, along with others at work, lived around what mood or condition he would come into work with. His lateness and his excuses for being out and gone most afternoons, while his secretary help-mate did massive amounts of trouble-shooting.

At another job, an alcoholic co-worker of sorts who came in most mornings in a rotten mood, even abusive. One wondered why this person had not been fired for all the misery, but like a college student who still got good grades, he managed to make his quotas. There were (and still are) lots of people who accommodate.

There is also this aspect of alcoholism, and that is that is one way or another, in adult life it throws responsibility that is yours onto other people who are often unable to say no to taking on more.

C 2022 Wishing all of you a better tomorrow. Christine Trzyna

DALE CARSON LAW ON IDAHO STUDENT MURDERS : PROFILING A CRIMINAL

Listen well to this because he's telling the truth.  Criminals are LOOKING FOR YOUR VULNERABILITY... so they can victimize you. Violent offenders... White Collar Criminals... strangers... your own relatives.

Women are harassed and threatened so very much.  The police sometimes will not take the reports...

Just the other day a woman I know who waitresses for a restaurant that is known for it's sexy waitresses and encourages them towards showing their bodies as their skimpy uniform includes t-shirts that emphasize breasts and has a yearly calendar of their waitresses, was harassed by three men who intimidated her on the street on their way home.  They tried to evaluate her beauty there in the street which was horrible behavior in the first place.  They knew where she worked. One of them showed up there to ask her how it had felt to be intimidated that way.

She said she had pepper spray but that is not good enough.

I very much wish she would take her excellent waitressing skills to another restaurant where she doesn't have to show her body like that...

BLACK FRIDAY CLUES TO THE IDAHO STUDENT MURDERS CASE - WHAT'S OF VALUE?

Having now read articles or watched videos - at least a hundred - searching for new information on this case, I can tell you that there are many news media that have not and are not up on the latest and reporting erroneously. Mish-mashing like that is not responsible journalism. Piggy backing on main stream news by citizens is not the same as news media and responsible journalists not even knowing what has already been broadcast. Speculations and amateur sleuths can sometimes be valuable to an investigation as well but that's not the same as news media and responsible journalists being so out of it when it comes to the competitor's reportage, the scoops. I watched one news outlet that had a group of people discussing the case and it was clear they were about three days behind. 

WHAT'S OF VALUE?

The first thing to do as you search for information on this horrible murder scene is to forget any psychic medium predictions or tarot card readings. Sorry... Don't waste your time.

Second... Forget any criticisms that the police are inept or bumbling. The local force called in experts right away and the FBI is on it, a million more dollars towards the investigation is incoming... A great number of hours have been spent and will be spent. Be it that the killer has killed before or not, be it that this is the work of a serial killer and can be tied into one or two other, somewhat similar murders, they are not just looking BACK, they want to find the killer or killers SO THEY DON'T GET TO KILL AGAIN. They are doing everything they can and far more than they could have ever done in the days before DNA.  This is not a television show or film where crimes are solved as you watch. This real time crime research has already been aided by technology when it comes to the timeline especially which it would not have had as an advantage before video cameras on food trucks and before cell phone calls. So, if these murders happened even 20 years ago, they would have to proceed with none of that information.

Third ... Dr. Todd Grande...  making an issue of the phone call someone made reporting an unconscious person rather than a blood bath...  I'm NOT in the psychology profession but I can tell you this... This man does not know his stuff.

WHAT LIKELY HAPPENED IS THAT THE PERSON SAW ONE BODY, maybe by opening a bedroom door that was unlocked slightly, to peer in because they wanted to respect the right and need of privacy, and did not see the bloodbath.

If you are living with someone and had a late night yourself or know they are usually up by a certain time and you're sure they're home but hours have passed and you start to wonder, well, how do you know why they're in their room?  Maybe they have someone in there with them or are ill.  I can imagine a person going to the door, calling a name, knocking gently... taking a while to open the door. Who would think that they were going to come upon a crime scene?

Or if they did, they may have gone into shock and not been able to process it mentally.  I don't know the name for that condition but I know that people who are terribly frightened cannot always process and there is also something called a cover memory. That person may have called friends over for comfort or advice and unable to say or do more. A group of friends may have assembled to talk about what to do. In youth some of that discussion might be about who to tell because your friends are trusted more than your parents or authority figures.  So they bonded, trying to figure out what to say or do.  

THIS IS THE BEST VIDEO UP ON WHY the two women whose bedrooms were on the first floor, the original part of the house, might not have been awakened by the murders taking place upstairs. Floor plans and explanation by Johnny Law.

Daily Mail (UK - ONLINE) broke the news that a witness had told the police that the girls had drunk a lot at the bar and that one of them was stumbling tipsy. They had not nursed a beer for the night. The food truck video also reveals this - a swaying and stumble. Also news is that the person who was giving them a ride home (about a five minute ride if that) called to them to hurry up and they left the food truck without paying. The food truck employee says he gave them the food anyway so it's more that they were not paying attention and ran to get the ride. They had to get home and eat that food there. Likely they are regulars who always pay so no fuss was made.  THE FACT THAT TWO OF THE GIRLS WERE DRUNK after up to about three hours at the bar, means to me that they got right home, could have been sloppy about the door lock, but likely just fell into bed, half passed out, and would have been INATTENTIVE. So much for the sister of one of them going on about how aware and safety aware her sister was.  When a person is drunk, especially very drunk, they are unable to be as aware as a person who is sober and well rested.  Sorry!  This falls right in line with my idea that frats and sororities and party houses are a lot about alcohol and alcoholism and that party anywhere is assumed to include alcohol.

All these people on media and in videos saying "So what, all college students drink, get drunk, party..." THEY ARE SO WRONG.  I didn't and I don't think most students who care about their grades or who work and go to school have the party and booze  or/and drugs lifestyle.

Further, the same sister says that it was normal for her sister to call people late and in the middle of the night, even to ask someone what she should make for a meal.  This is not normal or acceptable behavior. It's not even easy for me to understand why someone who was excelling in college, going to graduate, and start a good job, all that, would not know better. No concern for other people's sleep? That needy? Why would anyone have their phone on to take calls after their bed time? If someone tried to rouse me with repetitive phone calls after I went to bed and it was not an emergency, especially if this was ongoing, I would not be able to stay friends with them. I recall I once had an associate who said taking such calls was the 'price of friendship' but I thought that she and I were not friends and that it was a very high price. Yes, if someone is a close friend and going through a bad time, you want to be there for them, and you might tell them to call you any time. I've done some time talking to a depressed person to get them to the dawn, but this as a habit and for trivial things...? The woman was not normal and seems desperate for attention. So one can imagine being woken or home and not taking the calls just to try and discourage them from that behavior.

The reportage says that the time stamp on those calls means that they were calls made before the murder...  could be... COULD also be that with the last bit of breath or energy that one or two of them had, they called Jack because Jack was the person they felt closest to - for help - or to say I'm dying I love you...  I know you might think that such a call would be to 911 or the police but maybe as you're bleeding out you don't think of that, or the 911 number was not right there in the phone. It's also possible the calls were made while a murder was happening in another room.  Someone woke up and again thought of Jack...

As I was telling a friend I met up with Thanksgiving, after a major earthquake, after checking in on an elderly neighbor who did need help, the first thing I did was try to connect with the person who was my best friend at the time, wanting to be sure they were OK.  And another time when I experienced a crisis, I found myself calling an old best friend. I just recalled an old phone number and had dialed it before I realized what I was doing.

So, basically, the many calls to Jack, a long time boyfriend, friend of the family, and good guy, should not be condemning to Jack.

Bleeding out.  An early report said they had been stabbed in the upper body.  Mention of where they were stabbed seems to have fallen out of reportage. Would a person awaken from a drunken pass out or deep sleep at the first pain? Well, not if the first stab was in the heart or another vulnerable place... I tried to find out how long a person takes to bleed out and die and it depends on where they were stabbed but THREE MINUTES was the given on the Internet. 

MARK FUHRMAN - Believe him, he's good, and he knew what happened when Nicole Brown Simpson was murdered too.  We do need to be patient and let the analysis come when ready. The term sloppy has been thrown around.  Sloppy Killer. Sloppy investigation.  I think what was meant by sloppy killer is that he or she or they left evidence, and if they had a plan once they got into the house and into action were finding out their fantasies were not how it goes in reality. That's generally good for the detectives.

The knife. Sadly, I get advertisements for the latest military grade knives and other survival equipment including a "flashlight" that has a focused flame that cuts through metal, on YouTube videos.  A person does not have to go to a store to buy anything these days.  Autopsy : They know the length of knife from the depth of the stabs.

KEEP IT IN THE NEWS ; Unsold murder mysteries, called Cold Cases, once they go away on media tend to go into a file and are forgotten.  Do you know something or think you could help with speculations? Having a child murdered hurts the parents forever...and so I wonder if there is any chance that one or all of them were killed to hurt someone else, threaten someone else, you know like in organized crime. 

READING SURROUNDED BY NARCISSISTS by THOMAS ERIKSON while DETECTIVES WORK ON THE IDAHO COLLEGE STUDENT MURDERS

Yes, I'm reading this brand new book about Narcissism, and it's full of bad news. They're everywhere, their being raised, and they'll do anything include revenge you and ruin your reputation or your career or your marriage if you don't get the hell out of there, and even then.  If they don't suck your energy from you like vampires, if they don't break your bank, if they don't get away with taking credit for your work, if they don't steal your intellectual property or your image...

They have to get their way, it's all about them. They may even have had a PLAN to get into your life, a long range plan, and a PLAN to get what they want...  No possibility of True Love there because they don't have empathy for you, what they put you through.

Subtitled How To Effectively Recognize, Avoid, and Defend Yourself Against Toxic People (and Not Lose Your Mind.)

This is all so sad.  Because those who are naturally empathic, who care, who are loving and giving of themselves, are punished for it when all that goes to a Narcissist, be that a partner, a boss, or your relatives.

But, you may be wondering, how might this tie in with the murder of four Idaho college students last week, which is quite the murder mystery at this point, one I and thousands of other people are listening in on.

Well, I'll tell you.

You see, I watched the video of two of the women who were murdered a couple hours later, at the food truck, their last stop before going home. They took a ride that wasn't Uber or Lyft, and why not when they were a five minute ride from home? These two appeared to be in "bestie" girlfriend mode after some time spent at a local bar, where perhaps they had not eaten, and - am I imagining this - though it had been a long night - took a picture of themselves together to prove what and to whom?  That they were still having a good time?  

I don't get people who are constantly photographing themselves to share, as if they have to prove they are popular and having a good time all the time.  Like Gabby Petito and Brian Laundrie.... As Thomas Erikson suggests, a new "influencer" is born every five minutes.  What's going to happen to all those photos anyway?  "Well, now, here's the time when we just got food at the food truck?"

No, these people were not trying to be Internet Sensations, but they were, all of the murdered, very much into "Greek Life," into the fraternity and sorority scene,and they lived in a "party house" not far from the "row" of houses on campus. To me, someone who thinks that the whole frat and sorority scene is about alcoholism, drunk sex, and rape, and TO BE AVOIDED, not only is every person at the bar that night a suspect, every person in the frat and sorority is also.  When it comes right down to it, they are people who exclude, who think they are very special, better and more deserving than others. Greek Life should end on all campus'.  (A person can still find such clubs and organizations off campus, but a university that stands for inclusion, should no allow it.) In short, snobs are obnoxious. They don't deserved to be murdered, no one does, but the sense of entitlement and other attitudes that are typified as narcissism, are played out in those places, and only amplified by the constant proofing of privilege.

MORE THAN THAT, if the local detectives are feeling sure this bloodbath happened because one of the women rejected a MAN, it very well might be that one of the four rejected someone of the same sex, a WOMAN, even someone who was transgendering.

And a motive might not be revenge for a break up or revenge because someone was just not feeling it and didn't want to go on a date, THE MOTIVE MIGHT BE THAT THE PERSON WANTED IN ON ALL THAT "POPULARITY," all that "PARTY," all that SOCIAL LIFE, all that bouncing around and smiling for the camera, all those SELFIES. (a sure sign of narcissism, even if author Erikson doesn't mention it). 

They might have been a FRAT/ SORORITY REJECT. Subject to hazing or other rituals of ridicule.

We don't have to imagine an ex; stalkers are not always heterosexual people who are obsessed with another person with sexual and/or romantic fantasies. They are not always people who you were married to, engaged to, having an affair with, dating steadily, or ever dated at all.  

They could be your heterosexually married friend, a wife and mother, who has a lesbian crush on you anyway, who you said No to...

So, while the detectives get ready to hold a press conference and probably know a whole lot more than has been speculated in the media, or released to the media, I hope they're in reality about college campus lifestyles. 

"Greek Life" Is their any proof that the ancient Greeks lived like this? Ancient Greek men may have only seen sex with woman, other than sacred prostitutes in the temples, as for breeding only. They may have been more into what we would consider to be homosexuality.

C 2022  Christine Trzyna