I've always been a person who sees the cup half full, rather than the cup half empty; case in point I'm not a "positive thinker" who sees the cup half full and declares it full.
This reminds me of an exercise in art - drawing - in which one draws not the object but the space around it. It's called "negative space" and can be rendered in black, but that doesn't mean what you see is dark.
It also reminds me that communication includes not saying, not speaking, allowing for silence, not responding. Leaving the "room" called the blog.
And, if you're following me, then you'll understand what I mean when I say that recently I was challenged to see a PERSON new in my life from this "what is not said," and "what is not done" perspective.
The PERSON is in a crisis. The PERSON might even love drama and create drama. Maybe everyone else is bored. She's entertaining. Over several weeks a few others have told me how I should look at her - see her - think of her. I found myself confused and frustrated and tried to not say the wrong thing and to give it time. Over time this unwillingness to declare myself a believer in anyone else's version of the PERSON began to work for me. I see her as a multi-dimentional and complicated person. She has her agenda but then so do they.
The experience reminded me, because I was told to stay out of it, told to research it, told who to talk to, told who not to, that I despise being dictated to about who I can befriend, what I can think, and what I can say. Guess who was not dictating to me, however smart assed and flippant she might be? You know who.
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