SHE'S NOT THE MAN I MARRIED
My Life with a Transgender Husband
C 2007 Helen Boyd - author
Seal Press
Helen Boyd uses the term "trans" or "Transgender" to represent all types of trans people - self identifying transgender people, crossdressers, and transsexuals.... She writes about being married to a man who is one or all of these... He started out as a crossdresser.
Pg 25 of the paperback...
"Some days I'm convinced I would have been better off never having met him, but I can't even comprehend what I would be like now if I hadn't. I wouldn't be me. In some ways, I'm not. My name isn't even Helen Boyd. That's a name I picked up along the way, a concern for privacy yielding a little white lie that snowballed into a pseudpnym. While he's become Betty, I've become Helen Boyd. A non de plume gave me permission to remake myself, and that is the first thing I learned from the trans community: Given names are not carved in stone. On the way to becoming somethng and someone else, you may find that a name begins to fit awkwardly, like a pair of shoes after a pregnancy. It just doesn't suit you anymore, and if you're lucky - like I was - and find a good reason to try on a new name, you may find yourself growing into a whole new identity.
